Mother's dilemma

I'm in dilemma. Adriana is 5 years old and by right she should be in pre-school. The thing is we have problem looking for the right school for her. She is a slow learners and she can't talk yet which make it difficult for any school to accept her.

We have been looking for a suitable school for her since last year. There are very few special school near our place and even if we found one, Adriana must have someone with her since she is not potty trained. This put another dilemma on us-who shoud go with her? Another thing is that she is not a severe case, if you look at her she seems like normal kids but her mental and physical does not look like she is 5, she is more like 3 years old kid. We have been adviced by her physicians, and her therapies that it is better for us to send her to normal pre-school so that she will learn from her normal peers rather than sending her to special school where the rest of the students might be worse than her and she will not improve.

I'm quite agreed with them, even now Adriana goes to normal nursery and we can see her improvement, but normal school would not accept her. Their reason is that they do not have facilities to deal with special kids.

So, where this put us?? We have been asking special organisation like NASOM and places that deal with down syndrome kids but they refused to take her in for the same reason as normal school, they do not have facilities for kids like her. She is a slow learners and she needs different approach from autism and down syndrome kids.

The best solutions that these places came up with is one of us stay at home and sort of home school her. Easier said than done. There are several reasons on why this is not the best solution for us, the first and foremost is at this point of time we could not afford to lose one of our income. Living in KL, it is essential for both parents to work just to get by. However, Amli is working on making this possible by working his ass off and I'm happy to let go of my job-even now I can't wait for him to say "ok, you can quit your job".

Another reason is that Adriana would not respond to us since she knows that she can manipulates us. She only listened to you for about 5 minutes and then off she goes-playing. She hated it when you gave instruction to her asking her to do something, but she will do it on her own. That is why it is very challenging for her therapies evertime she has session with them. She refused to do things that they asked her to do but leave her alone and about 5 minutes after that she will do it but not when you are hoovering behind her. So, we end up have to buy things that they used in her therapy sessions and leave it to her and she will do it on her own when she feels like it.

Having special kid is very challenging for us especially when you are working full time and you do not have enough time with her. I tried my best to spent quality time with her and tried to teach her thing or two. I have been teaching her ABC, only that 3 alphabets and now if you show her A, she will said A. That took me almost a month but it was worth it. My main concern right now is her education, and where to send her. I want her to have the same opportunities as my other children but this is a challenge for us, and I pray to Allah that one day I will find a way to provide the very best for her. Insya-Allah.

Tag

Hihhihhih...I have been tagged by Yatie. I'm a bit slow when it comes to all these things but just for the fun of it, buatlah jugak.

Oh, before that Happy New Year everybody. I'm still enjoying my leave-being the domestic goddess,practising nanti bila dah berhenti kerja kan? It is a good rest as lately I noticed that i get tired easily. Went and saw Dr Marlik last tuesday and he said that it is normal when you are in the mid 30s and pregnant.

Ok-here goes with the tag-16 things you may or you may not know about me.

1. I'm the middle child. I have elder brother, elder sister, younger sister and younger brother. How middle can you get? So, when people are so going gaga over abang/kakak angkat or adik angkat masa sekolah-sekolah dulu, I was like huh??

2. When reading books and if I came across words or names that I can't prounced I just skip them altogether.

3. I have a special child-Adriana. She is a slow learners and I'm worried about her constantly, but at the same time i love her unconditionally.

4. I can't and do not know how to work when I first got married. Amli had problem eating the dinner that I cooked for him but I'm improving now. One can only take certain number of criticism so I'm learning how to cook from my mother in law and of course from Amli himself.

5. I have this thing about guys with funny ear,curly hairs and fair complextion.

6. I still listen to NKOTB- I think they are the ultimate band boys ever existed.

7. I'm very the sentimental person, I cried when watching movies, looking at sad photos. That is why I never watch 'Bersamamu' and of course iklan petronas every raya.

8. I can't eat spicy food-even my chinese colleague at work can eat more spicy food than me.

9. I'm still act like kids especially when I'm with my kids and I think that is my secret of looking young all the time(perasan mode is on). I love to tease my kids and play with them.

10. I love my kids so very much till the point that I think I spoil them. I spent my bonus this year on them. Tasya has new phone and both Tasya & Azrai has gameboy and lots of new toys. But at the same time they will get it from me if they misbehaved.

11. I love Akademi Fantasia and looking forward for the new season this year.

12. I love spending time with my family so much, not only my immediate family but with all my uncles and aunties too. And this is why I love throwing b'day parties for my kids as I will be seeing my family at the same time and gossip with them.

13. I don't like outdoor activities, my ideal holiday is staying inside hotel room and order room service but I love shopping.

14. I love sleeping and must have afternoon nap when I'm not working-even my kids know that when Mama is asleep it is better not not to disturb her at all. Azrai would rather cry silently when he is hurt than wake me up-how cool is that?

15. I wish that I have Chandler Bing's funny bones.

16. I'm amazed that I can actully write 16 things about me.

So, nak tag siapa? Ok lah since I only know 1 person who is a regular blogger, so I tagged her.

i. Jenn