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Sunday, February 04, 2007

"Bugger Off..I'm special Kid" badge

Sometimes I wish that I can buy a special badge to put on Adriana everytime we go out. You see from her physical features she seems normal, to me she is the most beautiful girl in the world(Prince's voice as a background)but I wish people would know about her conditions and stop making comment or give me the 'funny' look when she throws tantrum.

It happened to me again last week when she was warded due to HFM diseases( that's another story altogether), we went to A&E in one of the specialist hospital in KL, she was crying because of the pain and the looked that people in that room gave us was painful. They looked at you as if saying please could you please make you daughter stop crying. How can I do that? There is no communication from her, she can't speak, leave us alone!!! No compassionate from them at all.

Another incident was in another hospital, there was this mother, she was a nice mother very friendly, very chatty. She asked me How old is Adriana, I replied 2 1/2 years and she commented " still cannot talk?". I was like..No, and left her. I know there is nothing that I can do but I really wish I can buy that badge and put it on her. I guess people will be more sensitive if they know her conditions then again do I want their pity? huh...

But having Adriana teaches me to be more sensitive to people, nowadays when I meet new people, kids or adults I will commented on their good points rather than making comments about their lacking, I will find a good points and tell that to the parents. Before Adriana I was like that mother, asking people how old are their offsprings and then commented about their delay rather than their positive points. and I like who I am today, and having Adriana made me that. But still I want that badge...

2 Comments:

At 5:38 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yeah, we learn new things about other ppl and ourselves, don't we?

If i were you, I would try as patiently as I can, try to explain to other mothers Adriana's condition but it's very hard without getting them to feel pity.... we do not want pity... just a lil understanding.

Good luck, I will keep a look out for that badge for ya ehhehehe

Hugs,
Aida.

 
At 7:17 PM, Blogger Yatie Tajudin said...

Yeah I agree with Aida. If you have the time to explain, do so. But if you're in a rush (which is usually the case with these kids), and ppl are giving you meaningful looks and snide comments, just sweetly ask them "Are you an expert in ...autism (or any chidhood diasabily)?" Then you just walk away.
That's what I'd do. But so far I have not the pleasure of doing so.

I'll be gret to have that badge ya

 

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